To (Mom) Life

Episode 78: Processing Your Birth Stories

February 02, 2022 Jodi Fried Season 2 Episode 78
To (Mom) Life
Episode 78: Processing Your Birth Stories
Show Notes

Episode 78: In this episode, Jodi meets Ayelet Schwell from Birth Your Biz. Jodi and Ayelet Schwell speak about how mothers can find purpose and seek help adjusting back to their normal routine after giving birth. Ayelet specifically talks about how dignity, respect, and autonomy are concepts to focus on when going out in the world and finding your “why.” 

About Our Guest:

Ayelet Schwell is a doula, speaker, and educator for mothers and birth professionals. She is the Founder of Healing Her Birth Services and Creator of the Birthing Our Stories Workshop and has used her experience, knowledge, and intuition to guide mothers as they create their own positive, powerful birth stories. As a mom of 6, wife, and business owner, she gets by on baby snuggles, coffee, and sci-fi novels.

Show Notes:

3:37 Importance of one's “why” in life, inspired by Simon Sinek’s book “Start with Why.”
“Because my passion is birth, specifically birthing women have a right to autonomy and dignity and respect in their birth care and their perinatal care, that's my “why” that my mission.

10:03 The implications of finding one’s “why” as a mother
“I want my children to know that, that they can, that they should, that they can and they should demand their own autonomy, and to be treated with respect and dignity in their lives” 

12:40 Process of figuring out your “why.”
“If you start to think about the patterns in your life, of the things that you do, the things that bring you joy, the things that light you up, the things that break your heart and the things you want to change the world. That's what's going to start to let you know what it is” 

14:00 Finding one's “Why” outside of being a Jewish mom
“Jewish Moms say ‘my purpose is to build a Beit Naman B’Yisrael  and to raise Jewish children and to give them a basis of Torah. {...} And that's great that that should be all our purposes, but like, try to go deeper” 

16:12 Ayelet Schwell’s “Why”
“The thing I'm fighting for, in this world, is every woman's right to autonomy, dignity and respect in their birth care. And that's why I have to teach the doulas because if they're not doing their thing, and connecting with the people who need them, then the women are not getting the autonomy and dignity and respect that they need in their first year”

19:08 The implications of understanding one's birth story
“Yeah, but I don't know what to do with all these feelings. That's what processing can help with. And there are a few different modalities than the one that I created”

Here is Ayelet's workbook:   

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Host: Jodi Fried
Guest: Ayelet Schwell
Editor: Autumn Michels & Max Suib